I feel like I am finally getting over with the emotions from divorce (well, mostly, but I can say the hard time is over).
There are many factors that helped.
Personality. I am usually future-oriented, and dwelling on the past is not my nature.
My friends. Thank you for your support and kind words. They were very helpful.
To do #1: "Let yourself heal as much as you can. Accept it's tough when it's tough, and get help".
It's spring. Day is getting longer and air feels nicer.
Professionally speaking, I am as busy as ever. I got to prepare for a scientific meeting and finish writing a few manuscripts. Being busy can help to reduce time to remember things in vain.
To do #2: "Reduce the time to ruminate. Enjoy the present and distract yourself from old memories".
Speaking of private life, I got a few new gigs to do. Arrangements are made, or being made.
To do #3: "Create new memories to overwrite old ones".
There were some events in my family. My mother retired from her work, and started preparing for her and my father's "ending". She visited a temple, and asked about funeral and cemetery arrangement. Of course they don't want to use the arrangements any time soon, but getting it set can give some relief and peace in mind. They are thinking about another big life event, and it helped me to reset my perspective as well.
I started seeing some ugly details, and am re-evaluating the whole events. My occasional anger helps for this purpose, too. Anger and aggression help a mom bear to wean her cubs when weaning is due. Anger helps to kick something out and move on. Just what I needed.
To do #4: "Change the meaning of the old memories. Change your perception or evaluation".
And, I am doing what I am doing with purpose; to create a better future.
To do #5: "Create a better future . Live with hope".
I'm not sure I am accepting all yet. But I have faith in karma, "what goes around comes around", "what you sow you reap", and the karmic law is going to get them without me doing a thing, eventually if not already. So I'll focus on self.
Yup, I feel much better now. Thanks.
